In this episode of Grandma Has ADHD, Jami Shapiro sits down with psychologist and adult ADHD expert Dr. Shawn Horn for an honest and empowering conversation about one of the heaviest emotions many people with ADHD carry: shame.

Dr. Horn shares how shame can quietly shape relationships, confidence, communication, and emotional regulation — and why healing begins when we stop judging ourselves and start understanding what’s really going on.

Together, Jami and Dr. Horn explore how reframing shame can open the door to stronger relationships, more self-compassion, and practical strategies that actually work for the ADHD brain.

What You’ll Learn

• Why shame is so common in adults with ADHD
• How late diagnosis can reshape your self-image
• The difference between guilt and shame
• How rejection sensitivity (RSD) impacts relationships
• Why nervous system regulation matters in communication
• How ADHD can affect connection, conflict, and emotional reaction
• Practical ways to build self-compassion and resilience
• Why understanding your brain changes everything

Why This Matters

Many adults with ADHD spend years believing they are the problem.

This episode is a reminder that ADHD challenges are not character flaws. When shame is replaced with understanding, people can begin to build healthier relationships with themselves and others.

The ADHD Button Question

Jami asks every guest: If there were a button that could remove your ADHD forever, would you press it?

This conversation highlights a common theme on the podcast: while ADHD can bring real struggles, many people also discover strengths, creativity, empathy, and resilience through understanding how their brain works.

About the Guest

Dr. Shawn Horn, PsyD is a licensed clinical psychologist, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and adult ADHD expert known online as the “Shame-Busting Psychologist.” She helps adults with ADHD turn shame into resilience and thrive socially and emotionally. She is the author of Thrive Socially with Adult ADHD: Shame-Busting Strategies to Build Better Relationships Using Polyvagal Theory & Neuroscience.

About the Host

Jami Shapiro is an ADHD coach, speaker, and founder of Silver Linings Transitions. Through her podcast Grandma Has ADHD, she brings awareness to ADHD in older adults, especially women, helping listeners better understand their brains and navigate life with more clarity and compassion.

Resources

• Thrive Socially with Adult ADHD by Dr. Shawn Horn
• Polyvagal Theory resources
• ADHD relationship and communication strategies

Links & Support

• Website: https://www.jamishapiro.me
• Silver Linings Transitions: Support for downsizing, organizing, and life transitions
• Book: This Explains So Much by Jami Shapiro